Choice
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What you see here is a page of my hypertext book POWER of meanings // MEANINGS of power. Initially empty, this page will slowly be filled with thoughts, notes, and quotes. One day, I will use them to write a coherent entry, similar to these completed pages. See this post to better understand my creative process. Thank you for your interest and patience!
What you see here is a page of my hypertext book POWER of meanings // MEANINGS of power. Initially empty, this page will slowly be filled with thoughts, notes, and quotes. One day, I will use them to write a coherent entry, similar to these completed pages. See this post to better understand my creative process. Thank you for your interest and patience!
YOU DECIDE what happens next.
In any situation you decide how to react. To blame or to take responsibility. To give up or to go on. To raise your voice or to ask a question and listen.
choice is power
choice is power as influence because we make a decision about how things will be, it is about limited resources
Determinism - our choices do not matter as much
I believe that it is important to understand that we can make choices, but also to see limitations of our choices [give me wisdom to know what I can change, give me strength to change what I can change, give me patience to accept what I cannot change]
Making choices does not mean making free choices. We need to see what stands behind those choices. Sofie's choice is the famous example. She made the choice that she had to make. The choice that she really wanted to make was not offered to her as an option.
A person with a mental illness might seem to be making choices, but the mental illness affects their choices, so these choices are not free.
from Unwinding Anxiety:
“in fact, the OFC sets up a reward hierarchy so that you can make decisions efficiently without having to exert too much mental energy. This is especially true when you are making choices. Your OFC assigns each of your previously performed behaviors a value, and when given a choice—let’s say between two behaviors—it can then choose the more valuable one. This helps you make choice decisions quickly and easily without having to think too much about them.”
choose to see life as miserable or as an opportunity to learn and grow
” Our life itself, with all its unpredictability and factors that are beyond our control, is the training ground.”
https://www.tenpercent.com/meditationweeklyblog/the-warrior-and-the-caregiver
from Unwinding Anxiously- seeing your hardships as your teacher
Letting go of hate by questioning the very idea of evil: https://www.npr.org/2023/05/21/1176864308/religion-hate-evil-spirituality-simran-jeet-singh-sikh?utm_source=Klaviyo&utm_medium=campaign&_kx=uXKY7Y_39hYG3GPkxzgt8LldzLrnEO60BhP9Ij-Kj7c%3D.TAzfUF
"The very simple practice, the starting place, is to take 10 seconds each day and see the humanity in someone who is different from yourself. You can start in the easy places: family members, friends, colleagues, coworkers. But once you get through that list and you need to find someone else, you'll start seeing strangers you never noticed before. People you wouldn't otherwise connect with. And what I've found with this practice is that the strangeness starts to go away with these 10 seconds every day. It doesn't have to be super cheesy, you don't have to lock eyes and stare. Just notice someone and try to think about who they are and where they're coming from and just see their humanity."
In any situation you decide how to react. To blame or to take responsibility. To give up or to go on. To raise your voice or to ask a question and listen.
choice is power
choice is power as influence because we make a decision about how things will be, it is about limited resources
Determinism - our choices do not matter as much
I believe that it is important to understand that we can make choices, but also to see limitations of our choices [give me wisdom to know what I can change, give me strength to change what I can change, give me patience to accept what I cannot change]
Making choices does not mean making free choices. We need to see what stands behind those choices. Sofie's choice is the famous example. She made the choice that she had to make. The choice that she really wanted to make was not offered to her as an option.
A person with a mental illness might seem to be making choices, but the mental illness affects their choices, so these choices are not free.
from Unwinding Anxiety:
“in fact, the OFC sets up a reward hierarchy so that you can make decisions efficiently without having to exert too much mental energy. This is especially true when you are making choices. Your OFC assigns each of your previously performed behaviors a value, and when given a choice—let’s say between two behaviors—it can then choose the more valuable one. This helps you make choice decisions quickly and easily without having to think too much about them.”
choose to see life as miserable or as an opportunity to learn and grow
” Our life itself, with all its unpredictability and factors that are beyond our control, is the training ground.”
https://www.tenpercent.com/meditationweeklyblog/the-warrior-and-the-caregiver
from Unwinding Anxiously- seeing your hardships as your teacher
Letting go of hate by questioning the very idea of evil: https://www.npr.org/2023/05/21/1176864308/religion-hate-evil-spirituality-simran-jeet-singh-sikh?utm_source=Klaviyo&utm_medium=campaign&_kx=uXKY7Y_39hYG3GPkxzgt8LldzLrnEO60BhP9Ij-Kj7c%3D.TAzfUF
"The very simple practice, the starting place, is to take 10 seconds each day and see the humanity in someone who is different from yourself. You can start in the easy places: family members, friends, colleagues, coworkers. But once you get through that list and you need to find someone else, you'll start seeing strangers you never noticed before. People you wouldn't otherwise connect with. And what I've found with this practice is that the strangeness starts to go away with these 10 seconds every day. It doesn't have to be super cheesy, you don't have to lock eyes and stare. Just notice someone and try to think about who they are and where they're coming from and just see their humanity."
